published in Inspire a Fire, October 15, 2012.
In the best relationships, there comes a time when it crosses over an important threshold. It is that threshold that takes it from being temporary or seasonal to something permanent, everlasting. From something that feels like it is based on conditions and performance to something you can count on, with no reason for doubt. Sometimes it takes years to make it to this point of triumph. For parents and children, decades, perhaps. But whatever path it takes to reach this pinnacle of success, no matter how painful it may be, is well worth the wait and struggle to persevere.
And the truth is that those who never make it this far don’t really make it at all. Or if they do, it becomes more of a business/caregiver type of arrangement, and can hardly be defined as a relationship in the end.
The moment that changes everything is when a relationship crosses the bridge from “What does this relationship do for me?” to “What can I do for you?”